I had never really heard of the Sad Girl Theory until this class and the more I began reading up about it and researching it the more liberating I found it and the more I found myself relating to it and understanding it more. Audrey Wollen has described the Sad Girl Theory as “a proposal — a gesture, a question — that’s structured around the idea that girls’ sadness and self destruction can be re-staged, re-read, re-categorised as an act of political resistance instead of an act of neurosis, narcissism, or neglect.” Where women can “redefine what violence, activism, and autonomy can mean for girls by looking at the actions that are already so pervasive in girl-culture (self-hate, sorrow, suffering, and even suicide) and asserting them as scenes of protest.”
As an eighteen year old girl having grown up between two cultures that pride themselves on oppressing women and dehumanising them to only housewives and nothing more and having family members push me to be more “appealing for possible suitors” by sucking up whatever emotions I may have been feeling at that point this form of incitement is comforting in the sense that it shows women that they’re not the only ones and essentially not alone as they all have the same feelings and are going through the same stuff. So instead of hiding your emotions and locking yourself up in your room to hide from the world you’re crying why not openly cry in the streets? Audrey Wollen described how she found crying “almost erotic” in an article I read earlier on. And basically, the point Wollen is trying to get across her Sad Girl Theory is that being a feminist let alone a woman does not mean you have to be happy the entire time. If you’re sad that does not translate to you being a bitter person the same way you’re not happy just for smiling. And instead of condemning our feelings of sadness and having to hide them these feelings should be standardized.